misunderstood;
I know it's stupid as hell to even care this much, but I hate when I post something that I think will be all empowering and positive and get people agreeing and liking and whatever... but then it falls totally flat, or, worse, like today, it gets a negative response. I saw a comment in the 0-100 group -- some girl saying "this is what my body would probably look like if I went to the gym, but I love food so" and it just rubbed me the wrong fucking way. I see that kind of shit all the time, but this just put me over the edge, so I posted this in the 0-100 group, on my personal page, and in Might Club:
"I literally have to stop myself from inserting myself into every post/conversation/comment thread where someone says some variation of "I'd probably be in shape if I didn't love food so much". Y'ALL. THESE THINGS ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE. In fact, being in shape means you are working out regularly which means you NEED large quantities of quality food to replenish the energy you're exerting, to aid your body in building muscle, and to give you strength and stamina. I just wish people would realize a) how incorrect that statement is, and b) how damaging it is. People who are thinner, who are in shape, who work out, etc, are not sacrificing their love for food in order to do so. I FUCKING LOVE FOOD. I love it more than I love most people. I also EAT IT FREQUENTLY. I eat the tacos and the cupcakes and the ice cream (especially the ice cream). But I do so in moderation, I do so in balance with things like kale and sweet potatoes and crackers loaded with nuts and seeds and grains (which I ALSO love), and I do so while keeping up an active lifestyle. BALANCE, FRIENDS!"
And on ALL THREE it got people disagreeing with me and being defensive. I got a few likes on each, but ALL of the comments were in defense of people who say things like that. People saying that they need to give up certain foods because they know they have no self control around them, people saying they can see both sides, people saying how they have an invisible illness that makes it hard for them to lose weight, etc... ultimately people just missing my entire point and it got exhausting. One of the girls in Might Club (who I don't think I've ever seen comment before) said: "While I agree with the concept that you should aim to keep the foods that you love in your diet in moderation, I don't think you're really being fair to all the people who don't have the same ease as you in terms of regulating their eating. Eating moderately, or eating less moderately and exercising a lot is hard work. It is both physically and mentally taxing for a lot of people. That doesn't mean that it isn't worth pursuing. But, just because something has clicked for you doesn't mean that everyone who isn't following your lead is lazy, ignorant, or afraid. They may be trying really hard and failing, they may be doing all the "right things" and can't keep it together. I don't think there's a person in this group that hasn't heard someone tell them that they just need "BALANCE.” You're not sharing anything ground breaking here. It's not that we don't understand the concept, it's just that we are trying to find our own unique interpretation of a balance that works for us." I just... can't even understand how I said any of those things? Ugh fuck. I just feel so frustrated right now.